The Foreplay Debate – Men vs. Women
It is often said that when it comes to sex, men are like light bulbs that light up as soon as they are turned on. Women are like electric irons. They get hot slowly and cool slowly. Therefore, foreplay is what men do for women, and men themselves do not need it. However, some people say that foreplay is the switch of making love and the first step to determine the quality of sex, no matter for men or women.
There is a debate about whether men need foreplay or not.
Foreplay, just for women?
Men like to get straight to the point, while women are slow starters, which is determined by congenital factors. Therefore, men themselves do not need foreplay, foreplay is for women. In addition, men sacrifice themselves for this. Because, once the man is erect, if still undertake foreplay for the woman, the time that the penis stays in the vagina can shorten. Therefore, the actual time of sexual intercourse will also be discounted.
In fact, men also need “buffer”.
Such a statement seems reasonable, but in fact it is not. In real life, there are not a few people who are confused by foreplay. At the same time, it is true that many people think that men do not need foreplay, straight to the point is a very enjoyable thing. In fact, this is a misunderstanding.
In sexual life, foreplay is an indispensable process, and its role is not only to arouse women’s desire. It can prepare each other from spirit to body, and pave the way for the next step. Additional, male itself also is put in sexual sensitivity area, also need proper foreplay ability to enter good condition. Women’s touching and teasing will make men excited, and at the same time, it is also an affirmation of men’s own charm.
From a purely physiological point of view, most men are indeed more likely to enter the state than women. So, in theory, men’s need for foreplay is certainly not as strong as women’s.
Therefore, there will be some men with a perfunctory attitude towards foreplay. In fact, even if men make a little sacrifice for this, good sex is also the result of the joint efforts of both sides.
Because of love, learn to control their own rhythm, so that women prefer sex, each other to achieve the best state, why not?
Men should take the initiative?
For a long time, when it comes to foreplay, it refers to what men do for women. Men are active and providers. And the woman is the passive party, the recipient. In fact, men also need women to provide him with high-quality foreplay. Such, no matter be early days or ejaculation process, the man just can get more pleasant sense. Therefore, women should also learn to offer.
In fact, men also need women’s initiative.
It is reasonable to say so. Generally, women only enjoy the foreplay brought by men, but seldom bring men into the foreplay. In fact, men also want to get feedback from their partners in sex. Whether foreplay is successful or not will also affect whether he can start sex in the best condition, and ultimately affect his performance in the process of sex.
At the same time, give men enough foreplay, their penis erection will be more fully, the duration will be longer, and the intensity of orgasm will be greater.
In addition, foreplay also can make sexual life abound change, let each other enjoy the process of sexual love more.
So instead of simply passively enjoying each other’s foreplay, women should take action themselves.
Foreplay and laziness, just don’t love?
“After giving birth to a child, my husband made love hastily every time, and then fell asleep.”. I mentioned it to him many times, but he still went straight to the point. I don’t think he loves me as much as he used to.
In fact, foreplay can really reflect your status in a man’s mind, when he gradually does not love you, foreplay has changed.
In fact, communication is more important.
It is too arbitrary to draw the conclusion that you don’t love just because of the change of foreplay. After giving birth, women will have some special changes both physically and psychologically, and she will be more concerned about men’s care and attitude. However, men do not have such care, easy to ignore the bad feelings of women, which may affect the harmony between husband and wife.
At this time, women should not arbitrarily judge “love or not love”, but should communicate and communicate more, understand each other’s real ideas, and try to change. Blind complaints and accusations may intensify the original contradictions.
At the same time, men should also be aware that foreplay does show your attitude towards your partner to some extent. Careful and gentle will give his wife the feeling of being loved.
It is likely that in a few years, what remains in the deep memory of women is not how powerful you are, but how gentle you are.